Here is something really important in Dutch culture: Birthdays. They celebrate every birthday with a bar/bas mitzvah spirit which is something I really love. I have some friends whose host parents celebrated their birthdays like 5 times. It’s crazy!
So a few days ago one of my friends here had her 21st birthday dinner party-ish thing. We all went out to dinner to a Thai Restaurant, had waffles for desert, and hung out at this squat place where all hip Dutch youth come to dance.
It did not hit me until I got home that now, my friends are celebrating their 20-something birthdays. You know what that means? In a few years, I will be a real person. I mean I’ve been reading blogs, Buzzfeed posts, Thought Catalog entries since I turned 20, just to make sure that I am doing this right and understand what to expect from these supposedly golden years. After all, 20-somethings are the years that my Facebook timeline will be taken over by people with wedding dresses, groom suits, “it’s a _____ (insert a gender here)” signs and engagement rings… And I don’t know how to deal with that.
It is just really hard for me to understand that at this point in my life, considering I pulled 2 all-nighters in a row for two 2500-word long papers. Like if I can’t even write a paper about intersectionality, how could I possibly organize a wedding? Not to mention I almost had a mental breakdown because I got waitlisted for this one class because I was 30 seconds late. What am I going to do when a real-world problem comes up? Also, some people (real people) consider going to sauna as relaxing, when my idea of a spa day is just staying home eating cheesecake and watching “Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs.”
This is not how I pictured myself as a 20-year-old. This is not what I learned from Sex and the City, the O.C. or Gossip Girl. So, am I doing something wrong?
No. That is why I have decided to put together a list of movies and TV shows that will prove you that you don’t need to be fabulous all around. So, here is the list:
Bridget Jones Diary: Bridget Jones graduated from Bangor University. She is a single, thirty-two-year-old woman whose life is a satirised version of the stereotypical single London thirty-something in the nineties trying to go out there and look for love. She has some bad habits but she annually writes her New Year’s Resolutions in her diary, like eat more “pulses” and try her best to lose weight. Bridget also has an obsession with self-help books which makes things more difficult in her love life.
Why should you watch this: Because we have to learn that it is okay not to have it all together even down the road and not judge people who live like that.
Girls: Aspiring writer Hannah gets a shock when her parents visit from East Lansing, Michigan, (wooooo), and announce they will no longer financially support her as they have done since her graduation from Oberlin College two years before. Left to her own devices in Greenpoint, Brooklyn she and her friends navigate their twenties, “one mistake at a time.”
Why you should binge watch it: That is pretty much every post-grads life, minus fab New York. Also Lena Dunham is my hero for destroying media’s “ideal body image for actresses”. Not to mention she is our generation’s Tine Fey.
Mindy Project: Dr. Mindy Lahiri (Kaling) is a talented obstetrician with a hectic personal life, who struggles to find the right guy, the right outfit and the right attitude. Mindy shares a practice with two doctors, neither of whom makes life any easier for her.
Why you should binge watch it: Because even though Mindy got her career life all sorted out, her love life is a mess and she doesn’t even it. You know those girls who say they really are not interested in marriage and judge people who are, yet secretly have a wedding board on Pinterest? Well Mindy is the opposite. Not to mention, she is one of the first characters to bring “curves” on the screen and I really appreciate that. Plus we have a mutual love for food, so what else is there to say?
New Girl: Zooey Deschanel is so weird, but it feels so right. Throw her into the same apartment as grumpy Nick (Jake Johnson), ladies’ man Schmidt (Max Greenfield), and prank-loving Winston (Lamorne Morris), and you have the recipe for some must-watch, rib-tickling entertainment.
Why you should binge watch it: Please… A guy who dropped out of law school and to become a bartender; a high school music teacher who was unemployed for a while; a model best friend that makes you feel bad about yourself (sometimes)… All in this show. It is a TV show but it is maybe one of the most realistic ones.
The Office: A mockumentary on a group of typical office workers, where the workday consists of ego clashes, not super appropiate behavior, and tedium.
Why you should binge watch it: This is just obvious. If you haven’t watched it already, make sure you do this summer.
Welp, that’s all for now, hope you have a great day!